Saying that everything has been said means to say nothing. Humanity in its different forms of development beginning from appearance of written language in numerous treatises and writings applied to this theme. Maybe I won’t be able to invent anything new but essence of this topic is that till now we have been applied to by different couples with sexual dysfunctions who disregard erotic caresses.
Erotic caresses are very important for both partners, and disregard of this phenomenon causes different consequences including constant sexual dissatisfaction by women which in some cases, leads to disorder of orgasm, decrease of libido, neurotic dysfunctions and even inversion of sexual desire; and by the men – loss of sexual interest towards the very person, decrease of libido, erectile dysfunction and etc.. Of course, female function of orgasm doesn’t depend only on right erotic caresses but also on physical, psychological state during sexual intercourse, sexual constitution, different inflammatory or non-inflammatory diseases, attitude towards the very partner (a sense of love and attachment) and etc.. Why do some men and women avoid from erotic prelude of sex? May be there is no psycho-emotional connection between them or sex is only for having child, or in some physiological, physical, psychological reasons when they should respect sex and after which they can live in peace, or in inability to have right erotic caresses and unawareness of their importance. I don’t want to pause on paid or regulated sex where time limit doesn’t often give an opportunity to manifest all the mysteries of erotic caresses. Other reasons of neglecting erotic caresses may occur due to lack of information and wrong psycho-sexual education which are in relation to both macro- and micro-society. There is a serious deficit of mass scientifically popular editions where implementation of erotic caresses or types of sexual poses are presented; however, we have an eastern mentality, although we try to forego Europe in a lot of problems. “When shame enters into bed, feeling goes out of it,” said the ancient Greeks. In relation to this it’s very important to say about such conception as range of acceptability; everything that men and women consider acceptable during mutual caresses are forms and poses of sexual activities. At present we are trying to carry out a sexual revolution in our society but meantime obscene erotic and pornographic movies are shown which make people have a wrong imagination about erotica. Every man and woman have his/her own ergogenic zones and individual arousal preference according to their intensity, duration and personal range of acceptability. Here lie fantasy and action – only you must be satisfied with each other. I want to bring an example about culture of erotic caresses written by medieval French Doctor O. Ferre (16c) “Science about Love” (quoted by G. Egorov). Chapter I: For men and cavaliers caress is very important. Beginning love prelude start to caress and kiss a woman’s hands, shoulders and neck. Then go to ears, back of head and go down to waist without forgetting to pay attention to inner side of hips. And only then start to caress breasts and nipples, and slowly go to clitoris; trembling key of delights of your sweetheart. Caution is the best way to pleasure. A lot of women want the cavalier to arouse their clitoris because without it they are unable to achieve orgasm. But such women need longer caress of nipples in order to achieve peak of pleasure. There is an indirect connection between nipples and vagina. By stimulating nipples you will give your lady an incomparable pleasure. If you are a master of erotic kiss you’ll never face erectile problem. Chapter II. For women: Start always from the front part of neck and inner part of ear. Caress them, kiss and lick with tongue, suck nipples having erectile peculiarities and at last go to the inner surface of hips, scrotum and penis. Always begin from body touch, kiss and caress of neck, ear, breast and nipples and not from oral or manual stimulation of penis. If such caress causes your partner erection, go to other caresses. Remember, penis of a young man is more sensitive to caress and ejaculates faster. That’s why you should caress wholly but make efforts to the root. A sophisticated man’s penis must be referred to more carefully because he seldom achieves whole erection and doesn’t ejaculate quickly. Concentrate on caress of scrotum too and simultaneously stimulate root of penis. Chapter III. For both. Don’t stop feeling each other with hands and lips until your love duel goes on. By caressing don’t pause on the same place, let your hands run about on the whole body. Try to comprehend erotic caresses for gaining harmony and love. Remember that your lips and tongue are considered to be erotic organs but if vagina and penis control involuntary motions of muscles, lips and tongue are controlled consciously. If we go deeper in a doctor’s advice nearly 500 years ago we’ll see how old is this world where nearly nothing has changed in human sexuality, in erotic caresses and forms of their conduction. For about 70 years our close society had paid attention to sexual education but for recent 20 years we haven’t got enough time to be engaged in “such foolish things” but we are a gifted/talented nation and I think that in case of not great effort it’s possible to surpass the whole world in this issue, as everything is in your “hands”.
